BIRD HACK:  How to say no kids without pissing people off.

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Ok so kids are cute. And flower girls are cuter. But some weddings are best served child-free with free booze. It's fun seeing the kids tear up the dance floor for like...5 minutes. But then the adults want to get down and boogie with tequila shots flying around without worrying about stepping on the little ones. But your cousin has three kids and your best friend thinks her two-year-old will be "on his best behavior"! So how do you deal without hurting any feelings??

Make it a written rule. Nicely.
Either printed on your invites or stated clearly on your wedding website, try some gentle wording like this: "We love your kiddos but have an open bar and plan on using it! We want you to feel free to dance the night away so please leave the little ones at home for this one."

Blame it on the headcount. Which might be totally legit.
Maybe you really want your favorite mini-me niece to be there but don't want another friend or family member to be offended that some kids are allowed and not theirs. Talk to them individually, tell them you love their littles but have a strict headcount to adhere to (because of the venue, caterer, whatevs) and you've decided to keep the list under control by prioritizing your fave grown ups. 

Include them in the rehearsal dinner.
The rehearsal dinner is a lot less pressure, more relaxed, and often an earlier night anyway (since you want to be rested and refreshed the next day, duh.) So let everyone know this is the time share the love with the kids in your life. You're also probably spending less per-plate so it's a win-win! 

Provide an alternative...like a good one.
Let the adorable little monsters be part of the ceremony, then kick them out for the party. But with a way more fun option. Reserve a separate area at the venue or room at the hotel and hire an amazing children's entertainer for the evening. Face painting, balloon twisting, magic show, the works. We especially love the fairies and princesses over at Happily Ever Laughter

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